Dear Sue James
I am in love with my best friend whom I have known most of my life.
He is at University in Wales and I dont get to see him that often, but now we are text messaging each other and they are getting rather intimate! He is coming home soon and we are going out ( as friends ). What should I do? Should I just tell him or should I see what happens?
Please Help!
Anon,
Well Anon,
Crushes on best friends are often fraught with difficulties, and normally end in woe, especially if the crush/affection/lust/love feelings are very strong.
Don't mistake the closeness of best friendship for the closeness of true love, 'going out' to him might just mean nipping to the cafe for a quick coffee. Not being wined and dined etc.
Also, you could terrify him with your confession of undying love. I suggest you continue seeing one another as friends and just let nature take its course. Any shock revelations could ruin your chances with him and ruin the friendship.
What is meant to be will be. I hope this helps.
Love Sue James x
Tuesday, 26 April 2011
Friday, 22 April 2011
Twitter = Bad Romance
The romantic relationships of active Twitter users apparently don't last as long as the rest of the population.
A website recently studied more than 800,000 of its users. The study showed people who use Twitter every day tend to have shorter relationships. And the problem gets worse as the person gets older.
Oh dear! Better stick to good old fashioned Introductions - You can't register chemistry online!
suejamesintroductions.co.uk
Sad News for Single Ladies
If you are one of the lucky single ladies that has received an invitation to the wedding of the century, then I'm afraid I've got some bad news for you...
According to recent press reports Kate Middleton will NOT be throwing her bouquet for the single ladies to catch as doing so would breach royal protocol. Instead the bouquet will be placed on the Tomb of the Unknown Warrior. Oh well! A call to Sue James Introductions would bring you more joy than Kate's bouquet anyway. Email me sue@suejamesintroductions.co.uk and I'll help you find your prince.
Monday, 11 April 2011
5 Ways to Keep The Spark Alive In Your Relationship
Author Jay Hurt works as a salesman, but he has written a relationship book for single folk. He took his own life lessons in relationships and shares them in "The 9 Tenets of a Successful Relationship." He hopes his advice will help singles avoid making same mistakes he has. Here is an abbreviated list of five of the nine tenets he discusses in the book.
Tenet: Communicate clearly and effectively with your mate.
Understanding how we communicate with each other is crucial. Do not leave room for misinterpretation. The genders hear and speak things differently. Men have to read women's context clues. Women should recognize men tend to speak more literally.
Find Solutions for Enterprises, SMBs & Service Providers at the ITEXPO East, February 2-4, 2011 Miami Beach Convention Center, FL.Tenet: Don't do anything you wouldn't advise a friend to do.
Often we let our emotional attachment override the common sense we were blessed with. Separate the feeling of being needed as opposed to the feeling of truly being loved and appreciated. We know these things innately when we share our opinions with others.
Tenet: Show Appreciation Make an extra effort to appreciate each other.
Pay attention to your mate's wants more than just their needs. Be there "just because" often, not just on rare occasions.
Tenet: Decide if you can live with the flaws of your mate
No one is perfect, no matter how beautiful, charming, intelligent or classy they are. We have to be able to discern what works for us and what doesn't.
Tenet: Continue to date throughout the relationship Make it a point not to take each other for granted.
Relationships often fall into a routine, and we forget how important it is to continue to date each other. Don't stop salsa dancing, window shopping, walking and even something as simple as eating dinner together. Specify times and places to have dates with each other.
Focussing On Partner's Looks May Ruin Relationships
Here's an interesting article on objectification that I found recently which was posted by the Times of India. It makes for an interesting read especially in out 'image obsessed' society...
Concentrating on your partners' physical attractiveness may make you less happy in relationships, according to a new study.
The study also found that magazines and movies that portray people as sex objects can cause you to see your partner in that light, though not yourself, reports Live Science.
Self-objectification when a person is obsessively concerned about how he or she looks has been shown to affect women's self-image, school performance and life happiness. But this quality hasn't been studied much in the context of romantic relationships.
Partner-objectification, where that focus is placed on a partner's physical qualities over everything else, hasn't been studied at all in this context.
Read The Rest of the Article
Concentrating on your partners' physical attractiveness may make you less happy in relationships, according to a new study.
The study also found that magazines and movies that portray people as sex objects can cause you to see your partner in that light, though not yourself, reports Live Science.
Self-objectification when a person is obsessively concerned about how he or she looks has been shown to affect women's self-image, school performance and life happiness. But this quality hasn't been studied much in the context of romantic relationships.
Partner-objectification, where that focus is placed on a partner's physical qualities over everything else, hasn't been studied at all in this context.
Read The Rest of the Article
Wednesday, 6 April 2011
Celebrity Love: A Royal Romance
The wedding of the year is soon upon us and news of the royal ceremony is cropping up everywhere in anticipation of the big day. If you have been hiding under a rock for the last year then you'll want to catch up on William and Kate's story. The Mirror newspaper ran their interpretation of the love story this week and, as romance is my game, I thought I should share it with you... enjoy!
William and Kate
Smuggling his mother's ring in his rucksack and arranging a romantic stay in a secluded log cabin on
Last October, as the couple stayed in the surrounds of the beautiful
"It was a total shock when it came," Miss Middleton later said.
Read the full story here
Tuesday, 5 April 2011
Dear Sue James Introductions...
Dear Sue James,
I am 26, and I have never gone beyond a second date with any guy.
Since I started dating at age 19, I have had a total of 3 boyfriends.
Not too long ago, I went to a party with a room full of eligible men. I was dressed in my very best with just a hint of makeup on, and not one guy looked at me twice.
I know I'm not ugly -- I'm funny, smart, slightly odd and I love sports, especially football; but no matter what sort of smile I throw at a man or any kind of conversation I happen to start, I just cannot seem to have any man take much of an interest in me.
I know this sounds pathetic. Should I continue on the path I've been on for more than seven years?
I dress in sensible but flattering clothes and wear just the right amount of makeup.
I have been using my spare time to try to attract different men in different places, including church. Should I just say to heck with it and focus all of my energy on making a real career for myself?
And before you answer, know that I'd rather not use online dating sites to find a man since you never know what sort of person you're likely to meet.
-Anon
Dear Anon,
You have come to the right place and by the sounds of you, you tick plenty of boxes for plenty of guys.
However, I think the reason you are not having much success is because your approach sounds frenzied and a little desperate. This could come across as pushy and may put men off.
The best way to attract people to you is to be the best version of yourself possible. Be quirky, be confident, be competent and cool. Work on your friendships -- with women and men and you can't go wrong.
I am confident that Sue James Introductions will help you with these confidence issues and teach you the skills required to get the best out of your relationships/dates.
Remember, Sue James Introductions is unlike online dating agencies. We don't match you up and throw you to the lions. We can offer you tips and advice and make dating a comfortable and enjoyable experience.
Love Sue James
Love Quotes
Looking for inspiration for a few simple, yet romantic words to write in a card for a loved one? You may be an admirer, searching for the words to express your love. Whatever your motive, the best place to start is with the classics. There are some beautiful quotes that really tug at the heartstrings. Here's a few words from doomed poet John Keats. Why not try writing your own and see if you can compete with this classic...
I have been astonished that men could die martyrs for their religion -
I have shudder'd at it.
I shudder no more.
I could be martyr'd for my religion
Love is my religion
And I could die for that.
I could die for you.
~ by John Keats ~
I have shudder'd at it.
I shudder no more.
I could be martyr'd for my religion
Love is my religion
And I could die for that.
I could die for you.
~ by John Keats ~
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